We do things a little differently around here

I originally built this blog as a way to learn how to code (that, by the way, is still an ongoing process so I appreciate your patience if you see errors or any general wonkiness). In addition to wanting to learn to code, I also thought this blog would be a nice break from my day job, which I love dearly, but can be stressful. I love to cook, bake, read, travel and undertake affordable d.i.y projects (our house was in the middle of some upgrades and renovations when I first started working on this blog), and my original intention was to start a general lifestyle blog where I shared all of my exploits related to the aforementioned categories. However, I quickly realized that I’m not your typical lifestyle blogger and my family’s life and experiences don’t fit nicely and neatly into what one would categorize as traditional lifestyle blog fare. That means that this blog often finds itself outside of the proverbial lifestyle blog box, and I’m ok with that. I hope you are too.

Both my partner and I (we are not married because of archaic benefits laws that penalize people with disabilities for combining assets and incomes – perhaps I will write about that at some point in the future) are both people with disabilities.I have a rare form of dwarfism and J is a quadriplegic. Our lives are incredibly rich and full, and just like non-disabled people we cook, do projects around the house, travel, etc., but we do them a little differently. You’ll find that some of the posts on this blog are pretty straightforward recipes or d.i.y tutorials, but you’ll find those posts interspersed with ones about accessibility tips, creative workarounds for doing things with limited strength or mobility, and general musings on life and lessons learned. When I first started writing for this blog, I purposely left all of that out. Not because I’m ashamed of any of it, but because I didn’t think it was relevant to most of the people who would be reading. The problem, though, is that leaving those things out just doesn’t feel authentic because it erases a huge part of our lives. I sometimes see beautifully styled homes and meals on other blogs and long for my blog to have finished rooms and dishes, etc. that look like that. But most of those spaces and carefully curated table settings are simply not practical for us. It is far more important to me that J feels comfortable at our dinner table and everything works for him than it is that I have super expensive table settings that are too fragile for hands that don’t have full movement. It is far more important to me that both of us can fully use our kitchen and bathrooms than it is for everything to be perfectly organized in a way that isn’t functional. Just to give you one example: we don’t really store things or use our upper cabinets because J can’t reach them from his wheelchair and I have to climb a pretty high stool. This means that we often have things on our counters and our lower cabinets are not super neatly organized because we’re trying to cram a kitchen’s worth of tools into half of the cabinet space. It’s not always pretty, but it works for us.

J and I

What I’m trying to say is that I want this blog to be useful and entertaining, but I also want it to reflect the reality of our actual lived lives. I decided to change up some of the content on this blog, because I think that it’s important for the average person to see how two people with disabilities live and make it work. We’ve done a lot of fairly inexpensive accessibility upgrades in the house (some expensive ones, too) andĀ  have some hard learned lessons, tips and tricks from my 34 years living as a dwarf and J’s 18 years living with paralysis that I hope might help othersĀ  through being shared on this blog. I’m totally not offended if that content doesn’t apply to you and you want skip it. Please keep coming back for the posts you love, and I promise to rotate the content often enough so there’s a little bit of something for everyone. Thanks for reading and following us on our journey.